drop connections that come in between a close and an accept race

this is bad, but worse is the current logic which can sometimes hit a
nil counter channel.

grace.go

@@ -135,12 +135,17 @@ func (l *listener) Accept() (net.Conn, error) {
 			}
 			return nil, err
 		}
-		l.counter <- inc
+		select {
+		case <-l.allClosed:
+			c.Close()
+			return nil, ErrAlreadyClosed
+		case l.counter <- inc:
 			return conn{
 				Conn:    c,
 				counter: l.counter,
 			}, nil
 		}
+	}
 	panic("not reached")
 }